There may be a conflict between the two of us, maybe some resentment, maybe some frustration. And my initial response may be to blame you as the source of the problem. But what if the main reason for our conflict has less to do with your words and your actions (or lack of them) and more to do with my own assumptions about you and about our connection with each other? What do I if my unhealthy expectations are the source of our disconnection?
In any relationship there will inevitably be flaws and shortcomings to endure. Whenever a relationship becomes unhealthy, it is not uncommon to try to point out the other person’s failures or accuse them of being the source of the problem. But what if it’s me? What if there is something that I could improve about myself that would improve this connection? We’re going to spend the next several weeks at Flagstone taking an honest look at ourselves and discovering what we personally can be doing to improve the health of our relationships.
