When things don't go the way we want them to, our natural response is to try to find someone to blame. It makes us feel better about ourselves, and maybe even our circumstances, if we can find someone else to be at fault for whatever situation we find ourselves in. Pointing fingers and blaming may help us feel better about ourselves, but it can be very hurtful to the person who is receiving the blame. The trust and respect that should be one of the foundations of our relationships can start to crumble when we get in a habit of assigning fault. So how do I recognize when I'm playing the blame game? And how do break this harmful habit of accusing and blaming?
It’s common for people to “play games” in certain relationships. We make choices and say things in order to win the argument or get things to go our way, and at the same time we end up undermining trust and respect with that other person. At Flagstone for the month of February, we are going to take an honest look at the games people play in relationships and discover how we can truly “win” by making our different connections the healthiest they can be.
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"I'm too busy." "It's been too long." "It's not a big deal." If we made those kinds of excuses for why we're disconnected from our spouse or someone we're dating or our kids, it would be heartbreaking for that person. And yet many of us make the same kind of excuses for why we don't choose a relationship with God or why we don't stay in a close connection with Him. So why does it matter whether or not I choose to accept God's grace in my life? And how do I get out of the habit of making excuses for why my relationship with Him has grown stagnant?
Most of us know the frustration of setting goals for ourselves in different aspects of our lives and then failing to stay committed to achieving those goals. Often we find a variety of excuses to justify why we fall short of what we set out to accomplish. What if, instead of making excuses, I chose to follow through on the things I know I need to do? What would happen if I kept trying again instead of giving up when things got tough? As I begin a new year, it may be time to recognize the things in my life that need to be different, and it may be time for me to fully commit to those changes - no excuses!